May 29, 2018

Why is Quitting Benzos So Hard?

Benzodiazepines are a prescription medication and relatively common. They don’t cause euphoria like opioids and they aren’t ubiquitous like alcohol. Since they’re fast-acting, unlike SSRIs, you can take them only when you experience acute anxiety or can’t sleep. Benzos seem like a convenient and relatively harmless drug, yet it’s very hard to quit. What’s going on?

May 28, 2018

Why Detoxing Alone Can Be Dangerous

It’s common for people wanting to get sober to shut themselves in their rooms and wait out the storm. The appeal of this approach is obvious. It’s free, for one thing. You also get to be somewhere safe, comfortable, and familiar while you spend a few days feeling awful. No one wants to see anyone else while he’s sweating, shaking, vomiting, and whatever else. It seems much better to hide out at home until the worst is over. As appealing as this is, it can also be dangerous. Here’s why.

May 24, 2018

Why is Making Amends So Important?

Making amends is one of the most difficult steps. You are forced to reflect on your mistakes and your shortcomings. It also requires you to put yourself at another’s mercy by apologizing and asking how you can make it right. That can be hard for the most trivial offenses, much less the big mistakes people often make in active addiction. Despite the difficulty and discomfort of making amends, it’s one of the most important steps for several reasons.

May 23, 2018

Making Amends Probably Won’t Go the Way You Expect

Making amends is an important step. It shows the people you’ve hurt that you regret hurting them. More than an apology, it shows you are willing to make some sort of effort or sacrifice to put things right. It’s also a way to move past guilt and shame. Instead of beating yourself up for all the terrible things you’ve done, you actually try to make it better. Those feelings of guilt and shame can no longer fester.

May 22, 2018

Does Adderall Really Improve Productivity?

Adderall has a reputation as a drug for overachievers. Every semester, students take Adderall to help them finish term papers and study for final exams. People working overtime use it to help them meet deadlines. The problem is that Adderall is basically prescription meth. Using it to get an edge at work or in school can lead to escalating doses and possibly addiction. Some people consider the risk worth the reward. Does Adderall actually make you more productive?

May 21, 2018

Is Alcohol Addiction an Allergy?

There is a belief in AA that alcohol addiction is an allergy. This stems from an explanation in the Big Book about why some people are incapable of drinking alcohol in moderation. Dr. William Silkworth describes alcoholism as an allergy in ‘The Doctor’s Opinion’.

May 18, 2018

What is the 13th Step?

The 13th step is when a member of a 12-step group who is well established in recovery makes sexual advances on a new member. This is strongly discouraged but does happen occasionally. 12-step groups are informal and any regulation must come from the members themselves. Some group cultures are more permissive than others, and unless someone does something illegal, there’s really no one to appeal to. As a result, 13th stepping is sometimes a problem.

May 17, 2018

How to Tell Your Family You’re Addicted to Drugs or Alcohol

It’s not easy to face the possibility you have a problem with drugs or alcohol. When you do finally accept that you need help, you may face a new challenge: telling your friends and family. How do you tell the people who care about you that you have a problem with addiction? What will they think?

May 16, 2018

In Addiction Recovery, Focus on Small Wins

When you’re recovering from addiction, there’s no shortage of advice about how to stay sober. People will tell you to exercise every day, eat healthy, get plenty of regular sleep, go to 90 meetings in 90 days, start meditating, make sober friends, and so on. Most of the advice you get from therapists, doctors, and fellow recovering addicts will be useful in some way, but it’s also a lot to take in. It’s even harder to incorporate all of it into your life.

May 15, 2018

Can I Work the Steps if I’m not Religious?

People who are considering attending 12-step meetings are sometimes put off by the idea of a higher power. 12-step proponents often point to the loophole in step three that they ‘Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him’. As we understood Him--see? Nothing religious there. That could mean Christianity, Judaism, Islam, and possibly even Hinduism. And Buddha is a god, right?

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