Smarmore Castle Drug & Alcohol Rehab
Codependency within relationships describes a relationship where one member of the partnership derives their sense of self-worth, identity and well-being from the approval and validation of the other. In cases of addiction, the codependent member of the couple continues to seek validation from the addicted person, despite their increasingly disordered life. They may become involved in the addicted person’s drug-related behaviour and even facilitate it, in order to ensure they are still needed by their partner.
What is Codependency?
It is not always easy for onlookers to spot a codependent relationship as they can have the appearance of functioning normally from the outside. Similarly, it is rare for individuals within the codependent relationship to have a sufficient degree of objectivity to be able to recognise the destructiveness of their relationship.
However, there are some signs of codependency which you can look out for, if you think that you, or someone you know, may be in a codependent partnership:
- Being unable to set boundaries with your partner, or allowing them to repeatedly undermine them
- Feeling as if your own emotional well-being is dependent upon your partner’s well-being
- Adopting all of your partner’s emotions and hardships as your own
- Becoming too invested in your partner’s desires and values
- Intense fear of being alone or abandoned
- Consistent prioritisation of your partner’s needs over your own
- Taking too much responsibility for your partner’s behaviour
- Attempting to ‘fix’ your partner
- Trying very hard to please others (a ‘people pleaser’)
- The relationship could be described as ‘one-sided’
- Choosing to ignore potential warning signs about an individual’s behaviour such as lying or manipulation
- Staying in an unfulfilling relationship out of concern for your partner’s feelings
- ‘Enabling’ your partner’s problematic behaviour by ignoring it, refusing to challenge it, or only half-heartedly attempting to confront them about it
- Fear of creating problems in the relationship or angering your partner by confronting them about their behaviour
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Addiction and Codependency
In co-dependent relationships, one member of the partnership enables the other’s problematic behaviour through their refusal to confront them about it. This refusal may stem from a fear of the repercussions of upsetting their partner, or fear of their partner abandoning them.
In cases of addiction, often both members of a couple are addicted. However, in codependent relationships, if one person is addicted, the other may facilitate their ongoing addiction problems by cooperating with them and avoiding confronting them about the issue. For example, they may pay legal costs if their partner’s problem leads to criminal charges, they may bail them out of jail or make excuses for their behaviour to family and friends.
These behaviours do not benefit the addicted person or their co-dependent partner. The addicted person fails to suffer the consequences of their actions, and may continue to live in denial. Meanwhile, their partner remains in an unhealthy relationship where their needs are left unfulfilled and all of their emotional energy is focused on keeping their partner happy.
To overcome their codependent behaviour patterns, these people must seek therapeutic help. Therapy will help them to discover their reasons for entering into these types of relationships, and help them to change their behaviour.
Individuals with issues of codependency should seek therapy in order to better understand their behaviour, and the reasons underlying it. Often, this pattern of attachment in relationships stems from unaddressed childhood issues such as neglect or trauma, that have left the individual with a fear of abandonment and a damaged sense of self-worth.
Within therapy, the individual can begin to address these issues. They will also learn coping strategies and how to minimise their enabling behaviours, as well as how to better establish and maintain boundaries.
Types of therapy that can be effective in treating codependency issues include cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT), trauma informed talk therapies, as well as complementary therapies such as equine assisted therapy and art therapies.
- How to Access Rehab With Health Insurance
For those experiencing existing mental health conditions in Ireland, there are private medical insurers who can help you cover treatment. As addiction experts, we know that receiving the appropriate care and support when you have a mental health disorder is pivotal to attaining long-lasting recovery. Below, we will go through the various health insurance options to help you understand your options when it comes to seeking private residential care for substance abuse. Please note that there is no guarantee that you can be covered for all addiction problems as policies are always assessed on a case-by-case basis. Find Out More
- My Loved One Doesn’t Want Help, What Do I Do?
You can’t force someone to go to rehab. At the end of the day, it needs to be their decision because they are the ones that need to be open to turning their lives around. There are ways in which you can encourage someone to enter treatment, one of these ways is via an intervention with a trained interventionist, who facilitates an honest discussion between family members and the addict. This is something Smarmore Castle can arrange – contact us today.
- Which Drugs Does Smarmore Castle Detox From?
- How Long Is the Treatment Programme?
Our treatment programme starts at 4 weeks and is flexible in length, giving you the opportunity to extend for a longer period if you need it.
- Do You Treat Dual Diagnosis?
All patients are reviewed by a consultant psychiatrist in the first week and we can diagnose and provide treatment for a number of co-occurring mental health conditions.
- Do I Need to Be Abstinent Before Admission?
Our medically managed detoxification with 24/7 medical cover means that we can perform complete and complex detoxes at Smarmore Castle. You don’t need to be abstinent before arrival.
- How Do I Get To Rehab Safely?
Smarmore Castle is one hour north of Dublin international airport and we can arrange a driver to collect you and bring you straight to us for free.
We can also arrange a ‘sober transport’ service with a trusted driver, from anywhere in Ireland or Northern Ireland, at an additional cost.